1.     You and a friend are at a restaurant and she excuses herself to go to the rest room. You:

a.     had been checking email/texts during the conversation and continue to do so.

b.     scan the scene and then open your email/texts or surf the net.

c.     study what is happening around you or make small talk with your server.

d.     reflect on the conversation you were having before the interruption.

What could be better for a friendship than using a moment to center yourself? Allowing yourself to become distracted by the busyness in your device is a good way to short-circuit the sharing.

2.     You are trying to get to know someone or learn something face-to-face, but the other person keeps looking down at his phone. You:

a.     think that's just fine and begin to do the same.

b.     walk off (in a huff).

c.     politely excuse yourself.

d.     say, "I was hoping to get to know you/the subject a little better, but when you look at your phone it makes me think you are dealing with an emergency or you're not interested. That's fine, but I wanted to check in before saying goodbye. Is there a better time to talk?" ­­

Paying more attention to one’s phone than the person in front of you is crass, but the situation isn’t improved by becoming rude yourself. Yet, in world that seems to have forgotten how to relate to people where they are, don’t miss an opportunity to give people the benefit of the doubt and ask for more information and give them something to think about.


3.     When you drive, you:

a.     hold your phone in your hand to use as a GPS.

b.     store your phone between your legs or on the passenger seat.

c.     attach your phone with a windshield, dashboard or drink-holder mount or use a Bluetooth connection to the car’s audio system.

d.     turn the phone off to concentrate on the road and drive defensively.

The safest way to drive is to put the phone away, especially if kids are in the car. If you must stay connected, limit yourself to answering only those calls that are time-critical. Pull off the road if at all possible.


4.     Are hands-free phone conversations while driving more or less safe than talking to a passenger in the car?

a.     More safe

b.     Less safe

c.     About the same

As a distraction, talking on the phone hands-free is about the same as talking to a passenger. (AAA Foundation for Safety, "Measuring Cognitive Distraction in the Automobile," June 2013) More than 1 in 10 distracted driving fatalities is due to mobile phone usage. (Natl. Center for Statistics and Analysis 2013)


5.     If you look at your phone for 5 seconds while driving 55 mph, how far will you travel?

a.     100 yards

b.     55 yards    

c.     25 yards

d.     5 yards

About 100 yards, or the length of a football field (Virginia Tech Transportation Institute)


6.     To make online gaming safe for the whole family, you:

a.     Keep a “clean” machine.

b.     Use strong passwords.

c.     Make sure your kids know how to handle themselves and potential problems. (1)

d.     All of the above.

As a parent, it's your job to raise educated digital citizens. Go to Stay Safe Online (https://staysafeonline.org/stay-safe-online/for-parents/gaming-tips) and download their tips sheets for parents and kids.


7.     Do you have passwords on all your devices?

a.     No

b.     Yes

You're a grownup and this is fundamental. Set passwords today.


8.     Does your minor child know your device or account passwords?

a.     Yes

b.     No

As an adult, it's almost certain you have content on your devices that doesn't belong in the hands of a minor. Don't share your passwords with the kids.


9.     Do you know which apps your child is using?

a.     Huh?

b.     Sorta

Despite your best efforts, you might not know what apps kids are looking at. Remember, it's not just the device you issued to your child that you have to worry about. Kids travel in their own ecosystem, with plenty of opportunities to explore. https://www.nytimes.com/2017/09/06/style/teen-apps-bullying.html?_r=1


10.  Have you installed site-blocking and surveillance apps on your child's devices?

a.     Yes

b.     Thinking about it

c.     No

If the reason you haven't installed blocking and monitoring apps is because you're engaging your young ones in trust-building conversations and developing their understanding of how the digital world works, good for you. If you’ve installed the apps, don’t be overconfident – nothing has proved hack-proof to date.